A friend encouraged me to take this test...

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/

Note: If you go to the link given, you will need to select the choice of For Wives, For Husbands, For Singles, For Parents or teenagers, For Children or Languages of Apology. I selected For Singles.

Getting Started

The Love Languages Profile will give you a thorough analysis of your emotional communication preference. It will single out your primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to connect with those closest to you and effectively enhance the relationships in your life.

To Get Started

You’re going to see 30 pairs of statements that others might do or say to show love to you. All you have to do is pick one item in each pair that you like better. For some of them, you might like both options—but just pick one.

When reading the profile statements, you’ll see words like “special person” and “loved ones.” When we think of love languages, our immediate thought may be of romantic relationship. However, we express love and affection in a variety of contexts and relationships. As you work through the profile, think of a significant person with whom you are close: a boyfriend or girlfriend, a good friend, a parent, a colleague, etc.

Allow 10 to 15 minutes to complete the profile. Take it when you are relaxed, and try not to rush through it.

Question 1

My wife’s love notes make me feel good.
I love my wife’s hugs.
Sweet notes from my husband make me feel good.
I love my husband’s hugs.
I like to receive notes of affirmation.
I like to be hugged.
Asks me what I think
Puts his/her arm around my shoulder

Question 2

I like to be alone with my wife.
I feel loved when my wife helps me do yard work.
I like to be alone with my husband.
I feel loved when my husband washes my car.
I like to spend one-to-one time with a person who is special to me.
I feel loved when someone gives practical help to me.
Goes to my ballgames, recitals, etc.
Does my laundry

Question 3

Receiving special gifts from my wife makes me happy.
I enjoy long trips with my wife.
Receiving special gifts from my husband makes me happy.
I enjoy long trips with my husband.
I like it when people give me gifts.
I like leisurely visits with friends and loved ones.
Buys me clothes
Watches TV or movies with me

Question 4

I feel loved when my wife does my laundry.
I like it when my wife touches me.
I feel loved when my husband helps me with the laundry.
I like it when my husband touches me.
I feel loved when people do things to help me.
I feel loved when people touch me.
Helps me with school projects
Hugs me

Question 5

I feel loved when my wife puts her arm around me.
I know my wife loves me because she surprises me with gifts.
I feel loved when my husband puts his arm around me.
I know my husband loves me because he surprises me with gifts.
I feel loved when someone I love or admire puts his or her arm around me.
I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I love or admire.
Kisses me on the cheek
Gives me money for things I need

Question 6

I like going most anywhere with my wife.
I like to hold my wife’s hand.
I like going most anywhere with my husband.
I like to hold my husband’s hand.
I like to go places with friends and loved ones.
I like to high-five or hold hands.
Takes time off of work to do stuff with me
Rubs my shoulders or back

Question 7

I value the gifts my wife gives to me.
I love to hear my wife say she loves me.
I value the gifts my husband gives me.
I love to hear my husband say he loves me.
Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me.
I feel loved when people affirm me.
Gives me cool things for my birthday
Reassures me when I fail or mess up

Question 8

I like for my wife to sit close to me.
My wife tells me I look good, and I like that.
I like for my husband to sit close to me.
My husband tells me I look good, and I like that.
I like to sit close to people whom I enjoy being around.
I like for people to tell me I am attractive/handsome.
Gives me a high-five
Respects my opinions

Question 9

Spending time with my wife makes me happy.
Even the smallest gift from my wife is important to me.
Spending time with my husband makes me happy.
Even the smallest gift from my husband is important to me.
I like to spend time with friends and loved ones.
I like to receive little gifts from friends and loved ones.
Goes out to eat or shops with me
Lets me use his/her stuff

Question 10

I feel loved when my wife tells me she is proud of me.
When my wife cooks a meal for me, I know that she loves me.
I feel loved when my husband tells me he is proud of me.
When my husband helps clean up after me, I know that he loves me.
Words of acceptance are important to me.
I know someone loves me when he or she helps me.
Tells me I’m the best son/daughter in the world
Drives me to places I need to go

Question 11

No matter what we do, I love doing things with my wife.
Supportive comments from my wife make me feel good.
No matter what we do, I love doing things with my husband.
Supportive comments from my husband make me feel good.
I like being together and doing things with friends and loved ones.
I like it when kind words are spoken to me.
Eats at least one meal with me most every day
Listens to me and helps me work through problems

Question 12

Little things my wife does for me mean more to me than things she says.
I love to hug my wife.
Little things my husband does for me mean more to me than things he says.
I love to hug my husband.
What someone does affects me more than what he or she says.
Hugs make me feel connected and valued.
Doesn’t invade my privacy
Holds or shakes my hand

Question 13

My wife’s praise means a lot to me.
It means a lot to me that my wife gives me gifts I really like.
My husband’s praise means a lot to me.
It means a lot to me that my husband gives me gifts I really like.
I value praise and try to avoid criticism.
Several small gifts mean more to me than one large gift.
Leaves me encouraging notes
Knows what my favorite store is

Question 14

Just being around my wife makes me feel good.
I love it when my wife rubs my back.
Just being around my husband makes me feel good.
I love it when my husband gives me a massage.
I feel close to someone when we are talking or doing something together.
I feel closer to friends and loved ones when they touch me often.
Hangs out with me sometimes
Sits next to me on the couch

Question 15

My wife’s reactions to my accomplishments are so encouraging.
It means a lot to me when my wife helps with something I know she hates.
My husband’s reactions to my accomplishments are so encouraging.
It means a lot to me when my husband helps with something I know he hates.
I like for people to compliment my achievements.
I know people love me when they do things for me that they don’t enjoy doing.
Tells me how proud he/she is of me
Cooks meals for me

Question 16

I never get tired of my wife’s kisses.
I love that my wife shows real interest in things I like to do.
I never get tired of my husband’s kisses.
I love that my husband shows real interest in things I like to do.
I like to be touched as friends and loved ones walk by.
I like it when people listen to me and show genuine interest in what I am saying.
Straightens my collar, necklace, etc.
Shows interest in stuff that I’m interested in

Question 17

I can count on my wife to help me with projects.
I still get excited when opening a gift from my wife.
I can count on my husband to help me with projects.
I still get excited when opening a gift from my husband.
I feel loved when friends and loved ones help me with jobs or projects.
I really enjoy receiving gifts from friends and loved ones.
Allows my friends to hang out at our house
Pays for me to go on school or church trips

Question 18

I love for my wife to compliment my appearance.
I love that my wife listens to my ideas and doesn’t rush to judge or criticize.
I love for my husband to compliment my appearance.
I love that my husband listens to me and respects my ideas.
I like for people to compliment my appearance.
I feel loved when people take time to understand my feelings.
Tells me I look good
Listens to me without judging me

Question 19

I can’t help but touch my wife when she’s close by.
My wife sometimes runs errands for me, and I appreciate that.
I can’t help but touch my husband when he’s close by.
My husband sometimes runs errands for me, and I appreciate that.
I feel secure when a special person is touching me.
Acts of service make me feel loved.
Touches or rubs my head
Sometimes lets me pick out where we go on family trips

Question 20

My wife deserves an award for all the things she does to help me.
I’m sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my wife’s gifts to me are.
My husband deserves an award for all the things he does to help me.
I’m sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my husband’s gifts to me are.
I appreciate the many things that special people do for me.
I like receiving gifts that special people make for me.
Takes me to the doctor, dentist, etc.
Trusts me to be at home alone

Question 21

I love having my wife’s undivided attention.
Keeping the house clean is an important act of service.
I love having my husband’s undivided attention.
I love that my husband helps clean the house.
I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone gives me undivided attention.
I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone does some act of service for me.
Takes me on trips with him/her
Takes me and my friends to movies, ballgames, etc.

Question 22

I look forward to seeing what my wife gives me for my birthday.
I never get tired of hearing my wife tell me that I am important to her.
I look forward to seeing what my husband gives me for my birthday.
I never get tired of hearing my husband tell me that I am important to him.
I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with a gift.
I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with meaningful words.
Gives me stuff that I really like
Notices when I do something good

Question 23

My wife lets me know she loves me by giving me gifts.
My wife shows her love by helping me catch up on projects around the house.
My husband lets me know he loves me by giving me gifts.
My husband shows his love by helping me without me having to ask.
I know a person is thinking of me when he or she gives me a gift.
I feel loved when a person helps with my chores.
Gives me extra spending money
Asks me if I need help

Question 24

My wife doesn’t interrupt me when I am talking, and I like that.
I never get tired of receiving gifts from my wife.
My husband doesn’t interrupt me when I am talking, and I like that.
I never get tired of receiving gifts from my husband.
I appreciate it when someone listens patiently and doesn’t interrupt me.
I appreciate it when someone remembers special days with a gift.
Doesn’t interrupt me when I’m talking
Likes the gifts I buy for him/her

Question 25

My wife can tell when I’m tired, and she’s good about asking how she can help.
It doesn’t matter where we go, I just like going places with my wife.
My husband is good about asking how he can help when I’m tired.
It doesn’t matter where we go, I just like going places with my husband.
I like knowing loved ones are concerned enough to help with my daily tasks.
I enjoy extended trips with someone who is special to me.
Lets me sleep in late sometimes
Seems to really enjoy spending time with me

Question 26

I love having sex with my wife.
I love surprise gifts from my wife.
I love cuddling with my husband.
I love surprise gifts from my husband.
I enjoy kissing or being kissed by people with whom I am close.
Receiving a gift given for no special reason excites me.
Pats me on the back
Buys me stuff and surprises me with it

Question 27

My wife’s encouraging words give me confidence.
I love to watch movies with my wife.
My husband’s encouraging words give me confidence.
I love to watch movies with my husband.
I like to be told that I am appreciated.
I like for a person to look at me when we are talking.
Tells me he/she believes in me
Can ride in the car with me without lecturing me

Question 28

I couldn’t ask for any better gifts than the ones my wife gives me.
I just can’t keep my hands off my wife.
I couldn’t ask for any better gifts than the ones my husband gives me.
I love it that my husband can’t keep his hands off me.
Gifts from a friend or loved one are always special to me.
I feel good when a friend or loved one touches me.
Picks up stuff that I need from various stores
Sometimes holds or touches my face

Question 29

It means a lot to me when my wife helps me despite having other things to do.
It makes me feel really good when my wife tells me she appreciates me.
It means a lot to me when my husband helps me despite being busy.
It makes me feel really good when my husband tells me he appreciates me.
I feel loved when a person enthusiastically does some task I have requested.
I feel loved when I am told how much I am appreciated.
Gives me some space when I’m feeling upset or angry
Tells me that I’m talented or special

Question 30

I love hugging and kissing my wife after we’ve been apart for a while.
I love hearing my wife tell me that she believes in me.
I love hugging and kissing my husband after we’ve been apart for a while.
I love hearing my husband tell me that he missed me.
I need to be touched everyday.
I need words of affirmation daily.
Hugs or kisses me at least once every day
Says he/she is thankful that I’m his/her child

Your Love Language Personal Profile

Your Scores

4	Words of Affirmation
8	Quality Time
6	Receiving Gifts
6	Acts of Service
6	Physical Touch

Interpreting and Using Your Profile Score

The highest score indicates your primary love language (the highest score is 12). It’s not uncommon to have two high scores, although one language does have a slight edge for most people. That just means two languages are important to you.

The lower scores indicate those languages you seldom use to communicate love and which probably don’t affect you very much on an emotional level. Click Next to learn more about your primary love language and how to put it to use.

Your Scores

4	Words of Affirmation
8	Quality Time
6	Receiving Gifts
6	Acts of Service
6	Physical Touch

Now that you know your love language, here’s some more information you might not have realized about it, and why certain behaviors affect you more than others.

Your Love Language

Quality Time

In Quality Time, nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

You may have scored certain ones of the love languages more highly than others, but do not dismiss those other languages as insignificant. Your friends and loved ones may express love in those ways, and it will be beneficial for you to understand this about them.

In the same way, it will benefit your friends and loved ones to know your love language and express his affection for you in ways that you interpret as love. Every time you or they speak one another’s language, you score emotional points with one another. Of course, this isn’t a game with a scorecard! The payoff of speaking each other’s love language is more of a feeling of “this person understands me and cares for me.” This translates into better communication, increased understanding, and, ultimately, improved relationship.

If you have not already done so, encourage your friends and loved ones to take The 5 Love Languages Profile. Discuss your respective love languages, and use this insight to improve your relationships!