I was with Andre earlier at 5.30pm at his house. I went to his house to visit him after my meeting at Sentosa as he fell from his bike yesterday while thinking of his mum. He was not concentrating when he ran over several big tree branches while making a turn. His right knee was scratched and his two palms had to be bandaged. I wasn't able to see or talk to him yesterday cause he says he cannot hold the phone properly and he had to get his flatmate to help him with the dressing. I was angry and upset and so worried for him yesterday cause he did not explain it to me clearly how badly injured he was and refused to call and chat with me. I even offered to take half day leave today to accompany him to the doctor to change his dressing and he said he didn't wanted to waste my leave so I was mad at him and refused to talk to him then. Here I am trying to show to him I am very worried for him and trying to show my concern, and he is telling me how he hoped the friend at home now is me and being not appreciative. That's why I was angry with him.
Anyway I met up with him and he apologised to me for yesterday. At 6pm, his dad came home and received a phone call from his daughter in hospital saying Andre's mum is dying, there's no heartbeat. We rushed down to SGH. I told Andre to just park in SGH and I'll walk out to MRT station myself. I wished I can be there to accompany him but I guessed I gave his family and him time for themselves with her will be better. While on the way to hospital, Andre turned around and said to me, "At least she's not in pain now." I got so emotional which I did not expected, my tears just fell and rolled down my cheeks and I think he didn't know that I was tearing. I felt for him as he seemed not sad from his looks but I just felt his heart is somehow sad in a way. He text me at 6+ saying his mum passed away and at least he was able to see her breathed her last. He is still at the hospital with his mum's body still lying inside the room in the allocated area. I told my parents about everything and they contributed some condolences money to me to hand it to him at the funeral. He just told me that he will let me know when is the best time to go there pay my respects as his relatives will be there and he did not want me to see / meet them at all. He has his qualms and reasons for doing it. I just have to listen as this isn't the right time to make him upset. We were supposed to go out cycling on national Day and then see fireworks at night but I guess at this time, that won't happen. I just have to give him time to get over his mum's death. At least in a way, his sister's and his worry for finances are gone and he have less worry especially with a job like that, he will tend to worry if he has to often fly overseas for work. I just hope that his dad's relationship with him will be better and he can perhaps move back home again. I do not know how to console him, but I hope to be there for him when he needs me. But he says at this time for his mum's funeral, he need not have me there as he will be seeing lots of people which he doesn't wants to meet and me to meet. He will need some time to be alone these few days I guess. It is good that his mum has accepted Christ few years ago, but his dad and sis had some argument on what kind of funeral service they should take up (sister is Christian, same as Andre, his dad merely follows his wife to church but she was a Buddhist before) so eventually they are going for Buddhist service. Andre did not want to have a part in this argument but I thought it should be of what his mum's wish and belief is - Christian. But I do not want to say too much so if he isn't gonna voice out to them, what can I say...
Although I did not get to know his mum well, I have visited her at the hospital twice which the recent visit on Sunday, she may not even know that I was there. She was so weak both times so she cannot even hear or speak. It's a pity that I did not have a chance to be formally introduced to her or get to know her better when she was more sober.
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